Re:’ ROTHENBURGER – We’ve got to talk about suicide, but how?’
Very sorry for your loss. 😥 I too know what you have dealt with as my Husband committed suicide 3 yrs ago. We were married 28 yrs and I completely missed it..he was definitely going through something, but we never realized how deep he was.
Mental anguish is very painful, when someone passes after a long battle of cancer everyone says they fought a brave battle, when someone passes from suicide they automatically seem to assume they were something less than brave, and in my experience automatically assume they were drug addicts.
It’s because of those assumptions that survivors feel the need to explain. Not just “oh he died of cancer” the sympathetic looks immediately because they most likely endured a lot ot pain and death was a welcome relief. “Oh, he committed suicide ” no assumption of debilitating pain from mental anguish, body pain from anxiety…nothing, just assumptions of addictions or worse…
“How could they do that? What a coward!” Yes I’ve had that comment right to my face! DONT EVER SAY THAT PEOPLE! Or not knowing what to say so it becomes extremely uncomfortable, and people avoid you.
It’s not really their fault, I didnt realize until I was walking a mile in their shoes, that I did the same…that’s why we need to remove the stigma surrounding suicide. Thank you for sharing your very personal experience.
DEBORAH LEWIS FEHR