Evans — It’s love at first sight; and then come the Terrible Twos

Kara Evans writes about parenting for The Armchair Mayor News.

COLUMN — Children are amazing little beings. When they first arrive in this world they are completely innocent, dependent on you to nurture them in every way possible. It’s hard not to help but just love the infant stage of their life.

KaraEvanscol-babyIn the case of my own daughter, I found myself 100-per-cent love struck the moment she was born. Not long after my husband and I brought her home, I knew I just couldn’t wait for her to hit all of her milestones – rolling over, sitting up, crawling, walking, talking, and so on.

Now that those milestones have more or less come and gone, we’ve entered a new stage of excitement: Toddlerhood, also fondly known to many as the Terrible 2’s. It is this stage where I have taken back many of my adoring thoughts and have considered enrolling her in boarding school as soon as possible.

I used to just shrug off the comments of others about this interesting stage of parenthood. “Just wait until they’re 2! That’s when the REAL fun begins!”

“How bad could it be?” I would think. “Surely they just are cursed with a overall rotten kid, for my precious little girl could never be that wretched.”

I don’t know if it’s karma, but the Terrible 2’s are most definitely a real thing. At the drop of a hat my little bundle of joy can go from pleasant and sweet to an absolute terror and back again. All the warnings in the world cannot prep one for this bizarre stage of life.

Who would have thought that not being allowed to try on Mommy’s 4-inch stilettos would justify a 10-minute hissy fit, or that not being allowed to shove fridge magnets into the central vacuum wall connection equals the end of the world?

The Terrible 2’s is definitely a learning stage for both my daughter and myself. While she’s constantly pushing boundaries and learning that yes, we go pee in the potty, and no, we do not colour the brand new carpets with blue crayons, I’m learning that patience is most certainly a virtue and sometimes you just have to let things happen.

If my daughter wishes to eat Eggo waffles smothered in peanut butter and jam for breakfast every morning, that’s fine by me. If turning on the television pauses the chaos long enough for me to shower and feel like a human again, then I’m going to take advantage of it.

This is not to say that I give up easily and let my daughter do what she wishes. I believe that one should just pick their battles. If she only wants to eat two out of the five carrots on her plate, well, that’s better than none at all. If she’d rather wear her boots than the sneakers that clearly go better with her outfit, that’s fine too.

There are far bigger battles ahead, so there’s no sense in getting all worked up over the little ones. I know the Terrible 2’s are just another stage in life that kids eventually grow out of, and I look forward to that day. For now, I’ll just keep going with the ups and downs of raising a 2-year old. Besides, I’ve been told that 3 is even “better.”

Kara Evans tweets from @KaraEvs and blogs on

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